Now that I’m single, I have an opportunity to do all the things I put off while I was putting all my energy into my relationships. I can’t even start telling you how many tears I shed during those difficult times.
It’s only after you have lost everything that you are free to find out what you were missing.ĭuring those ten years, I lost love, a pregnancy, and my health. I know I will always cherish those memories, but I need to stop clinging to them to live for today and plan for tomorrow.īuddha said every day you are born again-that means new experiences and adventures for today! 3. Yes, I have fond memories of my exes, but that was in the past. If you don’t let go of the past, you will never appreciate the present. This is the time of acceptance and letting go, which brings me to the second point… 2. This is the time to reconnect with myself, a time where I can talk to myself, debating all the questions and answers that are bouncing in my head. Being single gives you time to be by yourself, with yourself.įinally, some me time. In my research, I learned some important truths about being single: 1. I needed to find proven ways to be happy as a single adult woman. Surely I wasn’t the only thirty-one-year-old person who felt uncertain about her new singleness. So I started reading about being single, and interviewing other happy single people.
I was so used to having someone around.īut the reality is I am my own person, and if I can’t enjoy being single, how can I enjoy being with someone else? It is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others.” I started to panic, to hyperventilate-until I found this quote: Recently some questions have bounced around in mind: What happened to me during those years? What did I get, gain, achieve in these two relationships? Why am I now alone? What will I do? How do I do things by myself? So after ten years in relationships, I found myself alone. Not long after that I got into a two-year relationship with a man who loved, yet cheated on me. I was in a relationship for eight years before my ex and I got engaged, then broke it off because of the distance-my ex’s reason. Over the past ten years, I always had a man by my side.
“Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security.” ~John Allen Paulos